Website owner: James Miller
Advice for a happy marriage
There are some things in this life that we have control over. There are other things we have no control over. The wise person concentrates his efforts on those things he has control over.
We have no control over the actions of other people. Be they people in our government or our workplace or our home, we have no control over them, over what they do, or how they conduct themselves. But we do, however, have control over our own outlooks, attitudes, conduct and actions.
A main thrust of the Bible is on how a follower of God is supposed to conduct himself, what kind of person he ought to be.
Jesus put great emphasis on the personal attributes of peacefulness, kindness, humility and patience. Jesus taught us about what kind of people we need to be if we are to please God.
And we are taught that we are to love our spouses and treat them well.
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Titus 2:1 But as for you, speak the things which are proper for sound doctrine: 2 that the older men be sober, reverent, temperate, sound in faith, in love, in patience; 3 the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— 4 that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.
6 Likewise, exhort the young men to be sober-minded, 7 in all things showing yourself to be a pattern of good works; in doctrine showing integrity, reverence, incorruptibility, 8 sound speech that cannot be condemned, that one who is an opponent may be ashamed, having nothing evil to say of you.
9 Exhort bondservants to be obedient to their own masters, to be well pleasing in all things, not answering back, 10 not pilfering, but showing all good fidelity, that they may adorn the doctrine of God our Savior in all things.
11 For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men, 12 teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly in the present age, 13 looking for the blessed hope and glorious appearing of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ, 14 who gave Himself for us, that He might redeem us from every lawless deed and purify for Himself His own special people, zealous for good works.
Col 3: 19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them.
Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, ...
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One of the biggest mistakes married people make is arguing and fighting a lot. I think one of the best pieces of advice I could give a married person is not to argue.
Stay flexible. Stay reasonable. Let your spouse have his way if there are no serious issues involved. Be meek.
Christianity teaches that we should love our spouses. The word “love” as used here has absolutely nothing to do with romantic love, or sexual interest, or sex. It is about kindness, considerateness, thoughtfulness. We are supposed to be good to our spouses, gentle with them, thoughtful of them. Kindness, patience, and self-control. Very important traits for a happy marriage.
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