Website owner:  James Miller

[ Home ] [ Up ] [ Info ] [ Mail ]

Oriental children become doctors while American children become waiters

My wife is a hairdresser. In my area a large percentage of the hairdressers are Korean and Vietnamese. There is something I have noticed over the years. The children of these Korean and Vietnamese hairdressers all grow up to be lawyers and doctors. Not a few of them, but from what I have seen, all of them! I am impressed and amazed. I have been noticing this phenomenon for 40 years. I was impressed 40 years ago to learn that my wife’s Korean coworker’s children were studying to be lawyers. If it is happening in my neighborhood, I am sure it is happening all over the country. And at the same time, how are the children of the American hairdressers turning out? They are becoming waiters and waitresses. They become nothing. They are totally unmotivated. They hop from job to job. They typically live immoral, degenerate, shameless lives and end up living with their parents. How do you account for this phenomenon? How do you account for this gigantic difference in outcome? How do these orientals do it? It is all about the parents and their outlooks, values, and mentality. It is all about aspiration, motivation and hard work. And about personal self-esteem and pride. Oriental parents are strict with their children, keep them on a short leash, expect a lot of them. Oriental parents believe in education, value it. American parents don’t. Oriental parents know what is good for their children, are concerned for their children, and show their concern in the way they raise them. American parents just don’t seem to care.

America parents will tell you they love their children. When their children want candy, they give them candy. When they want soda, they give them soda. When they prefer to watch television instead of studying, they let them watch television. They let their children do whatever they wish to do. They don’t exercise discipline and they don’t exercise control or authority. They feel they are being good to their children by giving them what they want. The problem is that whatever a child wishes to do, whatever gives him pleasure, is not usually what is good for him. The basic problem here is that the parent doesn’t understand what is good for himself or his children. He himself, drinks soda, consumes lot of sweets, eats all the wrong things, and spends his time watching TV. He himself engages in all kinds of wrong and foolish behavior. He himself is void of wisdom and understanding on how to live life. How can he ask his children to do differently from himself? In a culture that no longer knows right from wrong, he, a child of his culture, doesn’t know wisdom from foolishness.

The early years of one’s life are the formative years. They are the years when one’s lifelong character is created and established. They are the years when one’s outlooks, attitudes, values and habits are set. They are the years that establish the pattern of one’s life. The orientals, by their strictness, belief in education, emphasis on hard work, perseverance and self-discipline, train up their children to be winners in this world. Americans, by their permissiveness, laxness, laziness and inclinations toward self-indulgence and love of comfort and luxury, train up their children to be losers in this world. It is all in the childhood training.

Western culture is sick. It has lost its values, lost its way. When people take the low road of self-indulgence, profligacy and immorality you can expect nothing good. America is destroying itself. It is all about culture, cultural values, cultural outlook. America has lost her faith, lost her morality, lost her sense. She is too soft, too dependent on government handout, too pampered.

What has happened? Perhaps the following quotations give some insight.



   Luxury makes a man so soft that it is hard to please him and

   easy to trouble him; so his pleasures at last become his

   burden. Luxury is a nice master, hard to be pleased.






   Fell luxury! More perilous to youth than storms or quicksands,

   poverty or chains.


                                                 H. More





   Avarice and luxury, those pests which have ever been the ruin

   of every great state.






   It was a shrewd saying, whoever said it, "The man who first

   bought ruin on the Roman people was he who pampered them by

   largesses and amusements."






   Luxury is the first, second and third cause of the ruin of

   republics. It is the vampire which soothes us into a fatal

   slumber while it sucks the life-blood of our veins.







   On the soft bed of luxury most kingdoms have expired.







   Where necessity ends, curiosity begins; and no sooner are we

   supplied with everything that nature can demand then we sit

   down to contrive artificial appetites.








   Whenever vanity and gaiety, a love of pomp and dress,

   furniture, equipage, buildings, great company, expensive

   diversions, and elegant entertainments get the better of the

   principles and judgments of men and women there is no knowing

   where they will stop, nor into what evils, natural, moral or

   political, they will lead us.


                                            John Adams




   War destroys men, but luxury destroys mankind; at once corrupts

   the body and the mind.







  He who spares his rod hates his son,
But he who loves him disciplines him promptly.

                                                             Prov 13:24



  Chasten your son while there is hope,
And do not set your heart on his destruction.

Prov 19:18



  Train up a child in the way he should go,
And when he is old he will not depart from it.

Prov 22:6




  Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child;
The rod of correction will drive it far from him.

Prov 22:15


Sept 2012

More from

The Way of Truth and Life

God's message to the world

Jesus Christ and His Teachings

Words of Wisdom

Way of enlightenment, wisdom, and understanding

Way of true Christianity

America, a corrupt, depraved, shameless country

On integrity and the lack of it

The test of a person's Christianity is what he is

Who will go to heaven?

The superior person

On faith and works

Ninety five percent of the problems that most people have come from personal foolishness

Liberalism, socialism and the modern welfare state

The desire to harm, a motivation for conduct

The teaching is:

On modern intellectualism

On Homosexuality

On Self-sufficient Country Living, Homesteading

Principles for Living Life

Topically Arranged Proverbs, Precepts, Quotations. Common Sayings. Poor Richard's Almanac.

America has lost her way

The really big sins

Theory on the Formation of Character

Moral Perversion

You are what you eat

People are like radio tuners --- they pick out and listen to one wavelength and ignore the rest

Cause of Character Traits --- According to Aristotle

These things go together


We are what we eat --- living under the discipline of a diet

Avoiding problems and trouble in life

Role of habit in formation of character

The True Christian

What is true Christianity?

Personal attributes of the true Christian

What determines a person's character?

Love of God and love of virtue are closely united

Walking a solitary road

Intellectual disparities among people and the power in good habits

Tools of Satan. Tactics and Tricks used by the Devil.

On responding to wrongs

Real Christian Faith

The Natural Way -- The Unnatural Way

Wisdom, Reason and Virtue are closely related

Knowledge is one thing, wisdom is another

My views on Christianity in America

The most important thing in life is understanding

Sizing up people

We are all examples --- for good or for bad

Television --- spiritual poison

The Prime Mover that decides "What We Are"

Where do our outlooks, attitudes and values come from?

Sin is serious business. The punishment for it is real. Hell is real.

Self-imposed discipline and regimentation

Achieving happiness in life --- a matter of the right strategies


Self-control, self-restraint, self-discipline basic to so much in life

We are our habits

What creates moral character?

[ Home ] [ Up ] [ Info ] [ Mail ]