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The teenage years are years of uncertainty. The future of the teenager, the general shape and form of his future, is undecided. It all depends on decisions and luck. A teenager has two very important, life-shaping decisions facing him: 1. The choice of a profession, career or occupation. 2. The choice of a marriage partner. Choice of an occupation. A teenager can do one of two things: 1. He can prepare himself for some profession, occupation or trade through formal schooling 2. He can prepare himself for nothing in particular. There are drawbacks to both options. The drawback of the first option is that the educational preparation for most of the better professions (i.e. doctor, lawyer, engineer, scientist, etc.) is long and hard, requiring a lot of hard work, perseverance, and money. And, in addition, after all this investment of work, money, etc. there is still no real guarantee of a job. In at least some of the professions there is the possibility that a job may be hard to find. The drawback of the second option is that, if the teenager prepares himself for nothing in particular, the line of work that he will eventually end up in will probably be largely a matter of chance and there are a great many low-paying, unrewarding, miserable lines of work out there that he might end up in. If a teenager prepares himself for nothing in particular the usual scenario is that he takes whatever job he can find, whatever type of work it may be. If he doesn't like that type of work he moves to another job. After possibly several job changes he acquires some experience in some line of work and ends up spending the rest of his life in that particular line of work. Chance and fate govern it all. The need for food and shelter force him to work at something, no matter how miserable or unpleasant or unsuited to his personality the job may be. This is even more so if he marries young and has children, placing the responsibility of loved ones on his shoulders. So if he finds himself without work circumstances force him to take something, no matter what it is, and quickly. Whatever line of work a person ends up in that line of work will determine a great deal of the detail and content of his life. Some jobs require a lot of traveling, others none; some involve working inside at a desk all day, others out in the hot sun in hard manual labor; some involve various kinds of dangers to health, others do not; some give a great deal of personal satisfaction, others none; some pay well, others don't; etc., etc. Choice of a marriage partner. The ways in which people meet their future marriage partners are endless. Chance and fate governs it all. Many people start meeting and dating others of the opposite sex when they are in their early teens; others, for various reasons, wait until they are older; many people play around and are promiscuous, others don't. Some people are very choosy and selective about who they will date, others aren't. But however they happen to meet their future mates and however old they are when they decide to marry, the actual decision of who they will marry is usually based more on feelings and emotions (i.e. romantic infatuation, "being in love") or on desperation or expediency than it is on reason and good sense. And there is no decision in life that does more to decide the details, content, and quality of one's life than one's selection of a mate. If you mess up in this decision you mess up your life. Marriage is one of those things in life that is easy to get into, but not easy to get out of. You don't get out of it without scars and tears. The intangible, emotional bonds created by marriage are not easily broken no matter what some foolish people might think. No matter how thoughtlessly and lightly a person may enter into a marriage contract he has taken a life-shaping action. No decision in life calls more loudly for prudence, sense and caution than the choice of a marriage partner. Aug 1994 More from SolitaryRoad.com:
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