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Q. What causes the fears associated with lack of confidence in the shy
person?
A. I can think of the following causes:
1. Too much concern with what other people think, too much importance
being attached to their acceptance and approval; being too sensitive to
rejection, refusal, censure and disapproval.
2. Humiliating experiences in the past that have mortified him and "put
him down" --- experiences coming from having personal weaknesses
exposed.
3. Awareness, self-consciousness and fear of certain weaknesses or
inabilities that he has that tend to put him into embarrassing,
humiliating situations --- situations that put him down and make him
look stupid or inept. Examples of such weaknesses:
- tendency to panic under pressure (inability to think under
pressure, tendency to get rattled)
- inability to think on your feet
- lack of quick, ready wit
- abnormal slowness (slowness in physical movement)
- mental slowness (tendency to be a slow learner)
- tendency to get confused and rattled when someone is trying to
explain something to you (especially something somewhat
complicated)
- getting confused and rattled when someone is watching you or
looking over your shoulder
- having a poor memory
- being unobservant (of surroundings)
Oct 1977
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