Website owner: James Miller
Sometimes I am quiet and have little to say. It all depends on the situation, the conversation, and the person or person's with which I am conversing. Sometimes it just seems like prudence and good judgment preclude any possible comment or response. Prudence, taste or good sense are inhibiting forces that keep me quiet a good deal of the time. Suppose I think a certain response might hurt feelings, create a wrong idea, be interpreted wrong, or make a bad reflection on myself? Then good judgment precludes it. Suppose a conversation is silly or foolish? I don't like silliness and foolishness. How do I deal with the situation? Join in, take part, and become a fool myself? Reprehend, censure? Good sense often dictates silence as the best course. Suppose a conversation is leaning toward the indecent or the irreverent. How do I deal with the situation? Join in, go along, go against my conscience, go against what I am? Reprehend? It can be a hard, difficult moment. Responses call for split second, on-your-feet decisions and you don't have time for reflection and thought about what to do, what to say, how to respond. How to respond to indecent humor or conversation was a question I kept struggling with when I was just getting started in the work- world. I just didn't know how to respond. I felt put in a very awkward, embarrassing position. Now it is not such a problem for me. My judgment may dictate silence or I may feel that an appropriate remark that shows just how I feel and where I stand may be in order. I live by the motto "Be yourself with no pretense or false fronts" and am not afraid to let people know what my true feelings and values are. But at that time the idea of appearing Victorian or prudish or of affronting anyone (especially a boss) was just out of the question. I couldn't do it. July 1977 More from SolitaryRoad.com:
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