Website owner: James Miller
It is very important to good mental health to be true to yourself, to stand true to what you believe in. Many people who are different, who stand apart from the crowd, are unhappy and think the cause is because they are different. They view themselves as being different (or abnormal), are very self- conscious about it, and mistakenly see their "being different" as the root and cause of their problems. It is not the cause. The cause is the self-consciousness and worry about being different. It is important to be able to be comfortable in being different --- to be able to be different and think nothing about it and assume others think nothing of it either. The problem comes in self-consciousness about it and worrying about what other people are thinking about you. It is vital to good mental health to have your own personal convictions, feelings, and sentiments and to be willing to stand up for them, to be your own individual self. It is important to appreciate that if we are all true to ourselves we are all different to some extent, that we have a right to be different, and that there is a dignity in being different. We are each distinct, separate individuals with our own feelings and viewpoints and not one of us is like any other. Such a person misdiagnoses his problem as being different and then attempts to correct the problem by doing the exact opposite from what he ought. What he does is to try to follow the crowd, be one of the gang, and hid his true self. He attempts to suppress his true convictions, feelings and sentiments, fearing that they will not be accepted by the people around him. Thus he does not live up to the ideals and standards within him, goes against his own self, and thus his problem just becomes compounded. What he needs to do is to have the courage to be different and in the end he will gain the respect of others. And he will gain a good feeling about his own self --- a happiness in his strength and courage. Mar 1980 More from SolitaryRoad.com:
On Self-sufficient Country Living, Homesteading
Principles for Living Life
Topically Arranged Proverbs, Precepts, Quotations. Common Sayings. Poor Richard's Almanac.
America has lost her way
The really big sins
Theory on the Formation of Character
You are what you eat
People are like radio tuners --- they pick out and listen to one wavelength and ignore the rest
Cause of Character Traits --- According to Aristotle
These things go together
We are what we eat --- living under the discipline of a diet
Avoiding problems and trouble in life
Role of habit in formation of character
The True Christian
What is true Christianity?
Personal attributes of the true Christian
What determines a person's character?
Love of God and love of virtue are closely united
Walking a solitary road
Intellectual disparities among people and the power in good habits
Tools of Satan. Tactics and Tricks used by the Devil.
On responding to wrongs
Real Christian Faith
The Natural Way -- The Unnatural Way
Wisdom, Reason and Virtue are closely related
Knowledge is one thing, wisdom is another
My views on Christianity in America
The most important thing in life is understanding
Sizing up people
We are all examples --- for good or for bad
Television --- spiritual poison
The Prime Mover that decides "What We Are"
Where do our outlooks, attitudes and values come from?
Sin is serious business. The punishment for it is real. Hell is real.
Self-imposed discipline and regimentation
Achieving happiness in life --- a matter of the right strategies
Self-control, self-restraint, self-discipline basic to so much in life
We are our habits
What creates moral character?